“In my head, I play a supercut of us” ugh, love love loveee that song so much. It’s a song called ‘Supercut’ by Lorde and I first heard it on a recent film released on Netflix called ‘Someone Great’. It’s a film that beautifully touches on having loved and lost someone but making it through on the other side happy and grateful in a completely different way.
Here is an excerpt from the movie ‘Someone Great’ which really got to me. Like sis, seriously, grab some tissues before proceeding:
Do you think I can have one more kiss?
I’ll find closure on your lips and then I’ll go.
Maybe also one more breakfast, one more lunch, and one more dinner.
I’ll be full and happy and we can part.
But in between meals, maybe we can lie in bed one more time.
One more prolonged moment where time suspends indefinitely as I rest my head on your chest.
My hope is if we add up the one mores, they will equal a lifetime and I’ll never have to get to the part where I let you go.
But that’s not real is it?
There are no more one mores.
I met you when everything was new and exciting and the possibilities of the world seemed endless, and they still are.
For you, for me.
But not for us.
Somewhere between then and now, here and there, I guess we didn’t just grow apart, we grew up.
When something breaks if the pieces are large enough, you can fix it.
Unfortunately, sometimes things don’t break. They shatter. But when you let the light in, shattered glass will glitter.
And in those moments, when the pieces of what we were catch the Sun, I’ll remember just how beautiful it was. Just how beautiful it’ll always be.
Because it was us and we were magic. Forever.
I know sis, I know. My emotions got shookt in all directions.
So there’s different types of love right? Love for yourself, your family and love for your friends. Today I wanted to talk about romantic love, one that’s been had and lost because guys, I really went through it. I did however, make it out onto the other side with a totally new perspective that I wanted to share with you today.
Back in the days, I used to get so scared of falling for someone, risking the possibility that one day, it can all come to an end. Just like that. That one day, the person you woke up to everyday will just be a distant memory. There will be days when you will even wish that you just never met in the first place to save you all the pain. I know I did. Because one day, it eventually happened, I fell in love with someone at the most unexpected time with someone totally unexpected. To this day, I’d say it’s still one of the most pleasant surprises I’ve ever been blessed with and for that I will forever be grateful.
Now I’m going to save our ‘how I got over a breakup’ talk for another time because today, I wanted to zoom in on a very specific part of many breakups. The supercut.
a compilation of a large number of short video clips, typically showing examples of a repeated or clichéd action or phrase in films or broadcasts.
You guys know what I’m talking about right? When I was going through it, like REALLY going through it, the supercut of my relationship was complete torture. You know, those moments when you walk past the bakery where he’d get your favourite cakes from, or when you’d go past the train station where he’d pick you up from back in the days and all of a sudden there’s water coming out of those tear ducts and that’s it. Emotions emotions emotions. What used to get me the most is when I would have something really good happen to me like a new job, for instance and the first person I would always want to tell is him. By default, my mind became so accustomed to sharing every loss and every victory with him as we were such a great team like that and when he left, I just felt really lost.
The supercut of us was always good. No matter what went down in the end, my mind always wanders to our best parts. Now, my tears have turned into nostalgic smiles every time our highlight reel pops into my mind every now and then. One day, I just woke up and it didn’t hurt so much anymore. What once made me so sad, has now become something that I’m so happy about and grateful for, for the rest of my life.
If you’re going through it right now, I just want to encourage you that the highlight reel, the supercut of the love you once had that keeps replaying in your mind right now? Embrace it. Feel every feeling you have while you relive your story in your memories over and over again. Own those feelings and let it wash over you. Because one day, you’ll wake up to a new day and it’s not going to feel like anything much anymore. It will pass and eventually you’ll probably fall in love with someone new. But no matter what happens, those happy memories are for you to keep forever. I know it’s easy to want to run away from them and even wish them away at times when it’s just too painful to process. But I hope that one day, you’ll find your peace again and when that time comes, I hope that you’ll hold that highlight reel close to your heart because it’s a blessing to have loved so much and to have been that happy at that moment in time. Sometimes, some things are only meant to last for a season of your life, but your memories are with you forever to remind you that you loved. And because you’ve loved before, you know that you can love again. You’ll know that where you lost love, you eventually found happiness again. And most importantly, where you lost them, you found yourself again.
If this person ever reads this one day, I want him to know I’m so thankful for him. He was a pretty damn good co-star in the supercut of us and I wouldn’t have had it any other way.
Do you have a supercut you flick in and out of from time to time? I’d love to hear your stories in the comments below!
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